April 3rd, 2004

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Caleb's birthday, ice cream cake, Spaniards arguing

Well, Caleb's birthday was kind of a rollercoaster but overall was pretty good. Certainly memorable!

First event of the evening was Caleb and I going over malibran's place so a) he could give cracicotus his prezzie, one of those cool vacuum-pack-for-traveling kits As Seen on TV, and b) so we could hitch a ride with him out to Decatur. Score Daniel some points for getting Caleb a gift he use!

Second event was Caleb and I going to Taqueria del Sol and waiting for 40 MINUTES to get tacos. Caleb swears the fish tacos are worth it, but to me it was ridiculous to be in a human corral for that long to eat a meal that takes 10 minutes to finish. And it WAS good, I'm just saying... 40 minutes? We need to figure out their exact ingredients and just make that sh*t at home! I should say, though, Pookie loves those fish tacos and it was his birthday :)

Next up came the party and gifts part -- whoopee! Daniel and Enrique both came and miracle of miracle, they ALL enjoyed the Oreo ice cream cake I'd made. Then Caleb got this realllly nice box of Crate and Barrel glassware from Enrique (which was just shocking since I only invited him over today!) and then I gave him the Roman coins I bought for him, which he seemed to enjoy as I expected. Enrique liked the bath products and candy gift we rounded him up at CVS after dinner tonight, once we realized he'd probably get something for Caleb and it's his birthday tomorrow (um, today, actually) ;)

After this came what was like a three-hour DETAILED, wide-ranging debate over gay marriage. Caleb and I contributed only about 15% to the discussion -- mainly it was the two hotheated Mediterranean boys going at it like prizefighters. Boy, can those two ARGUE. They were both convincing me, they were both being absurd. They're really well matched. In the end, about the only thing we agreed on is that it should be easy to get a divorce within the first six months of marriage and only get a lot harder after that. But otherwise... Oh, God, the number of different directs the argument went would require a really big mindmap with lots of exclamation marks. Finally around midnight Caleb and I were tired of it and the boys of Spanish blood were running out of stuff to say anymore, so I wished them all well and they left.

I guess Caleb's bday is over.
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Marriage not for me

Tonight during the lonnnnnng discussion of same sex marriage, as well as marriage and societal contracts and legistation in general, I came to the conclusion (again) that I really have no interest in marriage -- same-sex, opposite site, civic, religious or any kind. I never have, not even as a little kid, and I guess I haven't evolved into it either. I don't remember ever talking about "When I grow up and get married..." or planning my wedding or thinking about how many kids I'd have. I thought about what I wanted to do with my life, what sort of place I'd like to live, what goals I wanted to reach, but in terms of marriage or family... Nah.

My basic orientation seems to be that I want to stay myself, take care of myself, and not be bound in with somebody else. I guess that is probably a large part of the reason I'm not with anybody and never have been, and therefore would stand in the way of marriage as well. Because even if I did find a person who is the compliment to me, who makes me happy, who cherishes me, who I want to grow old with, I don't have a strong desire to live together, share finances, and become one person. I am interested in the ability of two people to stick together through thick and thin and yet survive with a high level of independence. I just don't see the point or drive to this total binding union that other people have. I rebel against it.

Not that I begrudge other people at all. I'm much more tolerant of married people than I am of football fans, for example ;) I mean... I think I'm more likely to get a body piercing or tattoo or take up kickboxing than I am to ever get married. What the odds on me ever hooking up with somebody PERIOD... who the hell knows. I guess my interset in relationships with people is below normal anyway... I am way more concerned with pursuing my own quests than in finding somebody to have sex with or become some sort of part of my life. And in that context, marriage is way beyond that and personally, aside from all the debates, I just don't care about it as it relates to me personally.

Like I said, this isn't me talking about screwing marriage or against decisions on marriage, I just realized (again) I really just have no use for it.

P.S. My parents have been married almost 50 years, my sister Nancy for over 20 and three other siblings are all in marriages that will last probably until death. Go figure. Once again, last kid got the weird personality -- lives in the city, far from home, doesn't drive, didn't drink 'til after college, hates sports...
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another guest yes

well, i just had kate bornstein *on the phone* and she said yes to dragon*con. it's contingent, since she pretty much needs some way to break even on costs, but she's going to talk to her agent and see if it can scout some atlanta area gigs for that week. i so hope it works out, i want everybody to meet kate and kate to be introduced to the madness of d*c, which i think would totally be her element.

btw, in case anybody wonders about me being *on the phone* with anybody, actually kate is one of the few people i'm not scared to call, just because i know she'd never ever hurt me ;) plus she asked me to call since she is "horrible" with email these days. in the early to mid-90s she was a big proponent of email (wrote a cyberpunk novel even) but now she says she just can't keep up, prefers the phone.
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Oreo Ice Cream Cake

Yesterday I made Oreo ice cream cake and today I sewed. How domestic of me!

Anyway, I'm feelish very Betty Crocker-esque, so I'm sharing my recipe for the wonderful ice cream treat. This would be a great dessert at a kids party, especially since there's no cooking and it can be prepared a day or so in advance (maybe more if you figure out how to prepare freezer burn).

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