April 22nd, 2010

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Writer's Block: First love

At what age do you think kids should start dating? How old were you when you went on your first date? Was there anything you would change about the experience? How do you think it shaped your expectations?

I think I'd like this question more if the "should" were removed.

Kids don't have to date and I think the assumption that all do or should is a problem. I didn't date until college and that was... just barely. My friends in high school, at least the female ones, didn't date either. We cared about school! How anyone could care about something more than AP Bio or German grammar was beyond us.

Personally, when I was a teenager the idea of dating seemed incredibly far-fetched -- like... seriously? Who would be interested in that or have the time? In my head I was thinking OK, maybe when you're 18 or maybe later. Ideally I didn't think people really got into seriously relationships into their mid-20s. Whiiiiiiich explains a lot about me, huh?

Even now, at 35, when I hear of someone my age getting married I'm just sort of baffled, thinking "Hmmm, that should happen when you're like 50... 35 is too young for that!" So maybe my head is all about "later... I'm busy now!" LOL.